The Sound of Silence

Since modern counselling and psychotherapy evolved out of the primordial soup of shamanism and priesthood, therapists have come to understand the power and intimacy of silence. I think in all relationships, silence is underrated and has an unjustly bad reputation. Where silence between two people can be intimate and companionable, instead it often inspires fear…

3 Things to Rekindle The Love on Holiday

Ah! it’s holiday time, you and your partner are finally ready to get some quality time together. Rekindle the love as it were. Except sometimes we bring our stresses and relationship strains with us, end up bickering or arguing and generally loose out on that vital “RandR” – especially when kids are involved. So, before…

How to Cope With Being Single at Weddings

If ever there is a season for weddings it would seem to be around now, and of course it’s a happy occasion to attend… Unless you are single it seems. Many singles find it annoying, if not downright difficult to be at weddings, especially if it’s highlighted that they aren’t “with someone”. While you may…

Dating: Who Pays?

It’s a quiet morning. I get a call which starts off innocently enough. “I have been chatting on Tinder with a girl and arranged a lunch date with her”. Great news I thought, but I was wrong. Said date had ‘disappeared’ after he clarified they go Dutch. He originally just wanted to meet for coffee,…

Let it go. Let it flow. Let it snow!

It’s great to be in the driving seat throttling forward in life, Christmas season madness included, but could this be having a negative effect on your love life? Christmas pun aside, the feeling of being in control has an interesting twist. On the one hand it’s a great thing. We feel secure and assured when…